Am I Too Old to Make New Friends?

How to make friends in the modern world.

Marilù Iacona

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photo by Joel Muniz on Unsplash

My recent breakup with my best friend left me with a hole that needs to be filled and a lot of questions that need answers to.

How exactly do you make new friends as an adult?

This question has been haunting me for a long time now, basically since I finished High School and traded it for adulthood.

I have friends in my life, of course, but they’re all connected to my previous experiences, mostly to school.

There’s a huge variety of people you meet in your life, depending on the situation you find yourself in: school friends and then people you meet on vacation with whom you text afterwards but for no more than two months.

You have the mama friends which is this group of people you meet when you have friends with babies and apparently, they like to stick together, like a private club you’re granted permission to only if your boobs show the marks of baby piranha teets or if you’re pregnant.

I have neither.

People you meet at work can be tricky ones: are they friends or are they hanging out with you to know all your secrets and use them to take you down?

As you can see, there are different sorts of people, fitting in different friends categories but they’re never what you’re looking for.

Who do I call if I want to go for a Sunday brunch? Not the new mama for sure, as she's in alcohol jail for a while and I need someone to be in the same drinking zone as me, otherwise, where’s the fun?

What if I want to go on a road trip to the countryside? Married friends are a no, they’re always too busy and probably already have a toddler crawling at their feet.

School friends are all scattered around the world and as much as you love them, you can’t help but feel a little jealous of them.

You text for a while but then everyone is busy with their lives and you suddenly forgot their birthday.

Sometimes, when your friends live miles away from you, when texts become sporadic and you suddenly run out of things to say, it’s hard not to feel lonely even if you’re actually not.

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Marilù Iacona

Writer & Book Blogger. I write about Personal Growth & Relationships and spend too much time online eating books for breakfast. https://koji.to/rilu